Comments for Parents Helping Parents http://www.phponline.org Practical Solutions that Strengthen Relationships at Home Mon, 16 Apr 2012 16:19:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on A Game that Helps Pressures coming from School by Jennifer Brilliant http://www.phponline.org/1919/a-game-that-helps-pressures-coming-from-school/comment-page-1/#comment-971 Jennifer Brilliant Mon, 16 Apr 2012 16:19:35 +0000 http://www.phponline.org/?p=1919#comment-971 I love the idea of voting on something. Very cool. Thank You, Sharon. I love the idea of voting on something. Very cool. Thank You, Sharon.

]]> Comment on How to Help a Distracted Child by Sharon http://www.phponline.org/142/how-to-help-a-distracted-child/comment-page-3/#comment-893 Sharon Fri, 03 Feb 2012 22:14:55 +0000 http://www.phponline.org/?p=142#comment-893 Hi Donna, it sounds like you are doing a lot for your daughter and that it would also be good for you to spend some time with her that is relaxed and fun. At the end of that time you could also listen to her talk about what school is like. 11 year olds are often feeling pressured by peers, hormonal changes and of course academic stress. It is often an age when parents need to increase their "quality time" with their pre-adolescent. It can help "calm" things down for everyone. Hi Donna, it sounds like you are doing a lot for your daughter and that it would also be good for you to spend some time with her that is relaxed and fun. At the end of that time you could also listen to her talk about what school is like. 11 year olds are often feeling pressured by peers, hormonal changes and of course academic stress. It is often an age when parents need to increase their “quality time” with their pre-adolescent. It can help “calm” things down for everyone.

]]> Comment on How to Help a Distracted Child by donna http://www.phponline.org/142/how-to-help-a-distracted-child/comment-page-2/#comment-892 donna Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:09:48 +0000 http://www.phponline.org/?p=142#comment-892 my 11 yr old daughther does have dysexica and is getting help in school but is not turning to classes or is not trying to do the work and is distacing most of her classes and answering teachers back with attitude. i have been called in to she her head of year and we have come up with some new ideas for alana in classes. ive asked for extra homework but just need some advice to see if there anything else i can do at home to help her. my 11 yr old daughther does have dysexica and is getting help in school but is not turning to classes or is not trying to do the work and is distacing most of her classes and answering teachers back with attitude. i have been called in to she her head of year and we have come up with some new ideas for alana in classes. ive asked for extra homework but just need some advice to see if there anything else i can do at home to help her.

]]> Comment on How to Help a Distracted Child by Sharon http://www.phponline.org/142/how-to-help-a-distracted-child/comment-page-2/#comment-882 Sharon Fri, 27 Jan 2012 18:27:19 +0000 http://www.phponline.org/?p=142#comment-882 Hi Maritza, It is much easier for four year olds (and almost everyone else) to learn when they are having fun. If a child is resisting academic help from Mom or Dad then I recommend that parents have fun at home with their child and let the teachers fill in the educational gaps for now. If young people can concentrate on games they playing with other people then they often learn skills that will help them be less distracted with other tasks such as learning numbers and colors. Enjoy! Hi Maritza, It is much easier for four year olds (and almost everyone else) to learn when they are having fun. If a child is resisting academic help from Mom or Dad then I recommend that parents have fun at home with their child and let the teachers fill in the educational gaps for now. If young people can concentrate on games they playing with other people then they often learn skills that will help them be less distracted with other tasks such as learning numbers and colors. Enjoy!

]]> Comment on How to Help a Distracted Child by Maritza http://www.phponline.org/142/how-to-help-a-distracted-child/comment-page-2/#comment-881 Maritza Fri, 27 Jan 2012 13:37:23 +0000 http://www.phponline.org/?p=142#comment-881 My daughter which is 4 gets easily distracted. I've tried teaching her the colors and numbers but she seems not concentrating and that's the reason she still doesn't know her colors or #s. If not she mixes up the colors,etc I'm worried and don't know what to do. If I try correcting her she gets mad. I need some good advice. Also in school she does that. My daughter which is 4 gets easily distracted. I’ve tried teaching her the colors and numbers but she seems not concentrating and that’s the reason she still doesn’t know her colors or #s. If not she mixes up the colors,etc I’m worried and don’t know what to do. If I try correcting her she gets mad. I need some good advice. Also in school she does that.

]]> Comment on Welcoming a Step Daughter by Sharon http://www.phponline.org/442/welcoming-a-step-daughter/comment-page-1/#comment-880 Sharon Thu, 26 Jan 2012 20:20:30 +0000 http://www.phponline.org/?p=442#comment-880 Hi Isabel, the addition of a teen-age step child to any home is usually tumultuous. Teens usually are under a great deal of pressure from school and friends and a move to a new living situation can be particularly challenging. Unfortunately many parents want their new partners to help "handle" their teen but the child rarely wants anyone but their parent to offer unsolicited advice or guidance. This common problem often creates tensions. Third parties can help sort through some practical ideas that leave everyone less frustrated. Finding a counselor to meet with you and your husband for a few visits would probably help a great deal. It is often difficult to find the time and space to sort through the complicated dynamics of blended families completely on your own. If I can be helpful in any way please let me know. Blended families are wonderful, they just take time to sort through. Hi Isabel, the addition of a teen-age step child to any home is usually tumultuous. Teens usually are under a great deal of pressure from school and friends and a move to a new living situation can be particularly challenging. Unfortunately many parents want their new partners to help “handle” their teen but the child rarely wants anyone but their parent to offer unsolicited advice or guidance. This common problem often creates tensions. Third parties can help sort through some practical ideas that leave everyone less frustrated. Finding a counselor to meet with you and your husband for a few visits would probably help a great deal.

It is often difficult to find the time and space to sort through the complicated dynamics of blended families completely on your own. If I can be helpful in any way please let me know. Blended families are wonderful, they just take time to sort through.

]]> Comment on Welcoming a Step Daughter by Isabel http://www.phponline.org/442/welcoming-a-step-daughter/comment-page-1/#comment-868 Isabel Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:16:08 +0000 http://www.phponline.org/?p=442#comment-868 I really do not know what to tell you, it is the first time that I am living with a teenager. My husband and I have been married for the past 7 years, we have a five years old son. His daughter who is 15 just came to live with us August 2011. I used to considered my marriage perfect until she came to live with us. The main problem is that her dad does not tell her anything about chores or responsabilities that she Should has around the house. he just says "you tell her" teach her and honestly I do not want to do anything I just want my family back together. I have enough with my little one and I think he should take control of the situation and not just tell me to do things for her while he does not do anything. Please advise my marriage is in jeopardy I really do not know what to tell you, it is the first time that I am living with a teenager. My husband and I have been married for the past 7 years, we have a five years old son. His daughter who is 15 just came to live with us August 2011. I used to considered my marriage perfect until she came to live with us. The main problem is that her dad does not tell her anything about chores or responsabilities that she Should has around the house. he just says “you tell her” teach her and honestly I do not want to do anything I just want my family back together. I have enough with my little one and I think he should take control of the situation and not just tell me to do things for her while he does not do anything. Please advise my marriage is in jeopardy

]]> Comment on How to Help a Distracted Child by geeta http://www.phponline.org/142/how-to-help-a-distracted-child/comment-page-2/#comment-667 geeta Wed, 21 Dec 2011 04:37:30 +0000 http://www.phponline.org/?p=142#comment-667 thanks Sharon. thanks Sharon.

]]> Comment on How to Help a Distracted Child by Sharon http://www.phponline.org/142/how-to-help-a-distracted-child/comment-page-2/#comment-653 Sharon Fri, 16 Dec 2011 20:03:04 +0000 http://www.phponline.org/?p=142#comment-653 I am glad to hear that your daughter is doing well in school on many levels. Unfortunately it is common for some children to get "fussy" during group discussions. If possible I would recommend that you talk to her about what she is thinking during these times. In order to have your talk with her go well it will be important to listen to what she says and not get upset or disappointed in her. If you can accomplish this very difficult parental task you both then might be able to figure out ways to "settle down" during group discussions that would be less disruptive to the class. Good luck with a common but difficult challenge. I am glad to hear that your daughter is doing well in school on many levels. Unfortunately it is common for some children to get “fussy” during group discussions. If possible I would recommend that you talk to her about what she is thinking during these times. In order to have your talk with her go well it will be important to listen to what she says and not get upset or disappointed in her. If you can accomplish this very difficult parental task you both then might be able to figure out ways to “settle down” during group discussions that would be less disruptive to the class. Good luck with a common but difficult challenge.

]]> Comment on How to Help a Distracted Child by geeta http://www.phponline.org/142/how-to-help-a-distracted-child/comment-page-1/#comment-646 geeta Fri, 16 Dec 2011 05:06:58 +0000 http://www.phponline.org/?p=142#comment-646 Hi I need help "how to help a distracted child". My daughter is in 5 th grade and i hear almost everytime from her teacher that during classroom discussion she talking and distracting other or fussing around. She's good in study and always finish all assignments no complaint but why this behavior at school. she knows her teacher very well since 2nd grade. please help Hi
I need help “how to help a distracted child”. My daughter is in 5 th grade and i hear almost everytime from her teacher that during classroom discussion she talking and distracting other or fussing around. She’s good in study and always finish all assignments no complaint but why this behavior at school. she knows her teacher very well since 2nd grade. please help

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