Meltdowns

Here are a few things to remember when and if your child has a meltdown. 1. Most children have meltdowns, not just yours. 2. Meltdowns usually spring from multiple causes that have built up over
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Handling Power Battles at Home

It can be effective to find a way to disengage from an unnecessarily complicated and tense “power battle” with a child – getting involved in a lengthy “back and forth” is often unproductive.

Hard Moments with a Child Often “Go Better” than Parents Realize

After many years of talking to moms and dads I have come to believe that even at the end of a hard day or overwhelming moment parents have managed to offer something useful to their
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Helping a Child with Hitting, Biting or other Aggressive Behavior

As seen on A Child Grows in Brooklyn.com Aggressive behavior usually happens because a child is over stimulated or overwhelmed in some way either before or during a difficult incident. For example, aggression can increase
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Handling Increased Day Care Hours with a 20 month old

as seen on A Child Grows in Brooklyn.com This weekend I visited some friends who are the proud parents of a 20 month old. Until now they have managed to maintain a work schedule that
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Sudden Outbursts from Children

When children have unexpected outbursts it can mean that an underlying worry or stress is not being shared with mom or dad. The real or imagined strain stays hidden until it can’t stay inside any
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Saying no!

To be seen on “A Child Grows in Brooklyn” Saying no to a child isn’t always easy. Here are a few things to keep in mind that often help. (Fair warning just because these ideas
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3 Things to Keep in Mind When Setting Limits

Here are three things to keep in mind when setting a limit for your child: 1. stay calm – tension usually breeds more tension. 2. use as few words as possible to explain your idea
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Loving an Angry Teen

Nelly was a single mom who had been through many transitions with her two boys. A few years ago a challenging and unexpected divorce had been difficult for everyone and although she was happy to
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Parents Sometimes Say Too Much – An Expanded Common Sense Tip

It can be helpful for parents to say their ideas in as few words as possible. A short, clear explanation is often easier for children of all ages to understand and remember. Many times, especially
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